It would seem that yesterday you dreamed together about the future, made plans and could not imagine life without each other. But now, once again, he stays up late, “lingers at work,” his former attention was lost, and his shirt increasingly smells of foreign spirits. "Treason" - you summarize, and you probably ask yourself the question: "What is wrong with me?"
Of course, thoughts of a bad figure, wrinkles, and one's own "uninterestingness" immediately come to mind. However, from the first fact of treason, the question should be put as follows: "Why is he cheating on me?" Let's try to figure it out.
"I will take revenge!"
According to scientists, in 40% of cases, men change out of revenge. "What did I do to him like that?" - you are indignant. Perhaps you pay little attention to him, constantly grumbling and reproaching him, and what's even worse - set as an example more representatives of the strong half of humanity who are more “correct” in your opinion. Such a "revenge", of course, is formed somewhere in the back of the subconscious, and is expressed in the form of self-affirmation. Therefore, your faithful finds solace in the arms of the woman for whom she can be the best, thereby confirming her male consistency.
In pursuit of status
But it can happen that a man goes "left" regardless of how you feel about him. Narcissistic and narcissistic, he constantly needs to confirm the status of the alpha male, and moreover, he sees nothing immoral or indecent in it. This type of men is characterized by a quick “cooling down” in relation to new passions, since the goal of each hobby is to get what he wants.
Sex is not the main thing!
Your man can separate the concepts of "sex" and "love", and therefore he will never understand the tearful "we are parting" after being accused of treason. According to the adherents of this theory, physical satisfaction is akin to eating: hunger is quenched, and no matter what contributed to it. Moreover, do not be surprised if he demands gratitude from you for this: often in sex with young ladies unworthy of love, such a man allows himself to be humiliating to a woman things that he would never allow, making love to “that”.
Love till death
It is possible that you have established a relationship with a romantic, who sincerely believes in the presence of the one and only and through short-term relationships, is trying to determine if she is. Often, this type of man does not think that he is not a one-lover, what he considers himself to be.
Handcuffs - to the side
Another common cause of male adultery is the lack of freedom in the family. Your excessive jealousy, total control and restrictions in dealing with "undesirable" people can lead to the fact that the pious in the end will want to taste the "forbidden fruit".
In any case, if you are faced with a similar situation, the reasons must be sought in the traitor, and in his attitude towards him. Restrained dialogue will help to understand whether betrayal is a single and erroneous phenomenon, or it is better for your ways to disperse forever.
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